I remember a time when I wanted things to get better. Specifically, I wanted to there to be more money in my life. And I would frequently ask myself, "When will things get better?" like it was some mysterious date or event that would occur that would change my circumstances suddenly. There was so much I didn't understand. I remember looking at my bank account, and despairingly seeing the numbers not changing. It was easy to want to give up and try something new again. But I wanted to commit myself to one path for as long as I possibly could - I knew I was getting results with my relationships and capacity to influence, but the finances were taking what felt a very long time. I wondered when things would change -- so I kept on trying to implement what the infamous Jim Rohn would say:
"For Things To Get Better, I Must Get Better, For Things to Change, I Must Change"
As I pondered on, "What can I do to make things even better financially?"
I remembered what one of my mentors from the Higher Laws Company, Brandon Broadwater, said to me, it was something that he said took him years to understand, but that once he understood, when he really started living this, that's when money started rolling into his life, and understood how to replicate that process. It remains a principle that the rich leverage to get the results they desire. What he said was this:
"When you understand the power of the Present, that's when the hardest part [of your problem] is over."
I really didn't understand what the meant for about year. Until I took some courses from another gentleman, Blair Dunkley, he runs the "Wiring the Mind for Wealth Program". A brief bio describes his history as being the pioneer of creating the "Coach" industry in terms of "Business, LifeSkills, Mentor", his efforts led the GDP increase of Canada, and he was given 10's of millions in grant money to find out what made successful people successful. Two of his primary focuses are on questions and language. What he shared that clarified Brandon's quote was when he asked the question:
"Where does change happen?"
"Does it happen in the past... the future... or the present?"
"Can you change tomorrow? Can you change yesterday? Or can you control or change the NOW?"
"What is your language reflecting? Are you saying "Well, back in the day..." or "I'll do it 'later'" or, "We should do that sometime,"
My mind came to that "a-ha!" "Eureka!" realizing the patterns of ineffectively speaking or asking questions in the past or future that had no relevance to the goals I wanted to work towards right now. It has made all the difference because I began writing a book I've been dreaming of for a long time, I started being more effective with my business time, and I spoke to my friends in such a way that influenced them to think about the present - because I finally understood, that's where change really happens.
This was my lesson.
I wish the best for your dreams right now.
